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Bereavement

You Are Not Alone

Serving Sussex and Warren Counties in New Jersey, and the Pike County area in Pennsylvania.



For Educational Programs and/or Grief Lecture Series, visit our Community Education page.


Frequently Asked Questions

For those who have lost a loved one through death, the center provides emotional support and education about the grief process for hospice families and the community. The professional and caring staff bring experience and understanding to help individuals and families through the difficult grieving process. Services include Individual Support, Ongoing Support Groups, Annual Memorial Services, Grief Lecture Series, Classroom Support Services, Community Education and Workshops. On-site support and training is available at healthcare settings, schools, places of worship and wherever people work. Referrals provided as needed.

Anyone who has suffered the loss of a loved one through death; you do not need to be part of our Hospice Program to participate in any of our Bereavement Programs.

If your loved one was a Hospice patient in our program, you and your family automatically become part of The Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement programs that are part of the Hospice Medicare benefit. For those outside of Hospice a suggested donation is acceptable. No one is ever denied access of services based on ability to pay.

You may have an elderly parent that you see getting weaker and more dependent with the passing of each day, or a spouse, parent, sibling, child or friend that has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. You may know someone who is suffering from a form of dementia. These are just a few scenarios that you may have experienced, or may be experiencing, with a loved one right now. When confronted with these situations you may find yourself dealing with Anticipatory Grief. This simply means that you are aware, on some level, of the eventual loss of your loved one and are grieving their death before it has happened. Just as in grief, anticipatory grief can have very many different feelings and reactions, depending on the variables involved with your situation. Ask yourself these questions. Do you find yourself avoiding the issues, pretending that life is normal just like it was before your loved one became ill? Do you find yourself unable to have meaningful conversations and moments with your loved one for fear that it will be interpreted as trying to capture "what time is left" with your loved one? Do you find yourself avoiding serious questions, and avoiding the exploration of healthcare options, because you don't want your loved one to lose hope or stop fighting? Do you find yourself having unbidden, or uncomfortable thoughts as you observe the physical changes in your loved one? Do you find yourself depressed and sad, unable to function at work or at home? Do you find yourself mad at your loved one for being sick, dependent, or for making end-oflife choices that you do not agree with? These are all normal feelings, thoughts and actions, when dealing with anticipatory grief. In some situations, you may feel that you are pulling away from your loved one emotionally. This too is normal as your mind is trying to make efforts to protect you from the grief that will surely come when your loved one dies. If you are not emotionally invested now, it won't hurt so much when they die, right? Maybe. But it has been my experience, that you will feel the grief, regardless of any protective measures that are put into place. There is no avoiding the pain of grief, nor the pain of anticipatory grief. The best plan, in the event of anticipatory grief, is to prepare and protect yourself in other ways. Make sure you have a good support system in place. People in anticipatory grief, need to have someone that they feel comfortable with and can trust to be able to discuss all the thoughts, feelings and emotions that they may experience. Depending on what your loved one's situation is, there are many organizations, support groups and counselors that specialize in that particular situation and with anticipatory grief. Call our Bereavement office; perhaps we can help direct you. Also, talk with your loved one, as honestly as you can and as the situation allows. Your loved one is more than likely having the same thoughts, feelings and emotions that you are and will welcome the opportunity to share them with their support system, which most likely is you.


Adult Support Groups

Adult support groups are open the community, and are free of charge. Donations are accepted. Anyone who has suffered a loss through death is invited to attend. No preregistration is required. Questions? Call 973-940-0413 or 800-882-1117

Coping with Loss Support Group

Sussex County

Open to anyone who is suffering a loss of loved one through death. This program is on-going, free of
charge and no pre-registration is required. Please feel invited to just attend. Three meetings each month.

  • Second Monday of each month: 7:00-8:30 p.m.
  • First Wednesday of each month: 12:30-2:00 p.m.
  • Third Wednesday of each month: 12:30-2:00 p.m.

Location: Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center, 61 Spring Street, 1st Floor (use Trinity St Parking lot and lower entrance), Newton, NJ

Coping with Loss Support Group

Pike County

Open to anyone who is suffering a loss of loved one through death. This program is on-going, free of
charge and no pre-registration is required. Please feel invited to just attend.

  • Fourth Tuesday of each month: 10:00 – 11:30 a.m.

Location: United Methodist Church, 206 East Ann Street, Milford, PA

Coping with Loss Support Group

Warren County/Hackettstown

Open to anyone who is suffering a loss of loved one through death. This program is on-going, free of
charge and no pre-registration is required. Please feel invited to just attend.

  • Third Tuesday of every month: 10:00-11:30 a.m.

Location: Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center, 214 Washington Street, Hackettstown, NJ

Children Support Programs

For children (ages 6-12) dealing with the loss of a loved one through death. Parents and/or guardians are asked to take part in a simultaneous support group to learn about, and discuss, the issues of grief they and their children may be experiencing. ($100 fee to help cover the cost of materials and supplies). Call (973) 940-0413 for information/registration or email bereavement@karenannquinlanhospice.org

2016 Spring Session (4 weeks)

Seashore theme

Thursdays: 6:00–8:00 p.m.

  • March 2
  • March 9
  • March 16
  • March 23

Location:

Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center
61 Spring Street, First Floor (use Trinity St. parking lot and lower entrance)
Newton, NJ

2016 Fall Session (4 weeks)

Dr. Seuss theme

Thursdays: 6:00–8:00 p.m.

  • October 26
  • November 2
  • November 9
  • November 16

Location:

Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center
61 Spring Street, First Floor (use Trinity St. parking lot and lower entrance)
Newton, NJ

Pet Loss Support Group

Our pets are cherished and beloved members of our families. When we experience their loss we do grieve deeply. Please join us if you would like to share your feelings with people who understand and care. Call Diana Sebzda (973) 940-0413 for information and registration.

Coping with Pet Loss

  • Third Monday of EVERY month: Begins at 12:30 p.m.

Location:

Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center
61 Spring Street, First Floor (use Trinity St. parking lot and lower entrance)
Newton, NJ


Memorial Services

Memorial services commemorate loved ones by participating with clergy, hospice staff, family members and supporters in dedicated candle-lit observances.

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